Child’s pose (Balasana) is often the first pose most yoga practitioners learned. If you are a beginner or a seasoned yogi it’s important for you have this pose in your practice. It immediately eliminates stress as soon as your forehead is on the mat. You’ll likely experience a relaxing feeling, it allows for centering, and it can also be a resting pose. It creates opening in the body; especially the top of the thighs, back, and arms. I love this pose because you don’t even have to have a yoga mat for it. You can do it at home, the office, or even outside. If you already have a yoga mat, great! If you don’t you can use a towel until you get one. Don’t let anything hold you back from practicing yoga. Even if you don’t ‘pose’ perfectly you can still feel immediately a sense of relaxation and peace.
How to Get into Child’s Pose
1. Get on your hands and knees
2. Hands shoulder width underneath your shoulders, palms flat
3. Take your knees out to the outer edges of the mat, big toes together
4. Sit your tailbone back towards your heels
5. Stretch your arms forward
6. Place your palms flat on the mat
7. Forehead on the mat (Viola’! You’re in it!)
8. Take three deep breaths through your nose
9. Enjoy this time just to take a break
10. Yes, you can come back into Child’s Pose any time you like
My day started with a yoga practice. I practiced yoga off the mat and into my world. Walk with me if you will into my morning…
I felt groggy as my feet touched the floor. Nonetheless I started walking into my day; little did I know I was walking right into a miracle. It’s my life! The life that I have created isn’t perfect by any means, but it is mine. I began to realize as I washed my face and brushed my teeth, I thought, “Choice. “It’s all about choice.” I can choose that this morning is still dark and no one should be up this early. I could crawl right back into bed, but I didn’t. I went to teach my yoga class. Eight brave souls showed up this morning. I took a moment as I looked around at them at the beginning of class and choose to connect; to take that hour and share myself and yoga with them. I wasn’t teaching them, we were experiencing the practice of yoga together. I’m glad that I didn’t stay in bed; I would have missed out on that experience. Instead of mopping my way through the day, I’m now empowered to live today with courage. I’m making velvety rich coffee and scrambled eggs for my husband. I sang and danced as I started my day. (I’m glad you weren’t in my kitchen, it doesn’t sound so good and the dancing looks funny.) All in all it comes down to choice. Choice is everything. This foggy morning it landed with me, in a minty fresh way. This is my day; I can live it anyway that I choose to. I choose to live in freedom, possibility, and love. You can practice yoga off your mat. So, yes, this is a good morning!
Put away all that you know to be true about connection and vulnerability. Go with me on a trip to experience the impossible connection. Ask yourself these questions, what is connection and vulnerability? Is connection holding hands, an angry slap across the face? Is vulnerability internal, like chills up your spine or a gut feeling?
Being vulnerable creates connection. Connection is when you feel what I feel at the same time I feel it. Notice how we laugh at the same time, grin, and giggle. Or even become angry, just because someone else is feeling angry. This is being vulnerable and connecting. “Connection is not possible without vulnerability, Dr. Brene’ Brown.” Dr. Brown is a researcher of vulnerability, authenticity, courage, shame, and connection. To say the least this woman is fascinating. She enacts the imagination, throwing each person a curve ball of truth that goes straight down to the root of the root. Her message is clear, be vulnerable, courageous, and authentic. Take a look at the shame you feel, as the warm feeling that washes over you. Doubt your doubts. Notice where your doubt comes from, it typically comes from a reaction of shame. The shameful feeling is involuntary, habit even. It takes a hold of your mind and heart. It becomes a daily action so common in fact that you don’t even notice it until someone points it out. I thought about putting her theory to the test, but I chose to put it off for another time. I didn’t create a plan, but accidently used my yoga class as a lab. Let me tell you about it. It was opened my eyes to connection in a new light.
As I taught my yoga class I demonstrated how to assist Camel (a back bending pose). I asked each person to be the participant as well as the assistant. They all chose a partner. It was breathtakingly beautiful to notice men and women becoming vulnerable. Opening their hearts up and allowing someone else to support them. As the partners were finishing assisting each other they were all talking up a storm. I couldn’t get them to be quiet, so I started to OM. As I OM’d the whole room joined in. We created a chorus of standing OM’s. I didn’t realize I was testing the theory until I was middle of it. It was a moment like none I’d ever experienced. In the moment all 30 of us stood connected, at the same time, with a sense of awe.
What I learned is, it has little to do with the yoga pose it’s self. It has everything to do with your way of being with the person. Before the pose started three things needed to happen in order for each person to feel connected and willing to be vulnerable. Both participant and assistant had to experience: A sense of trust that their partner would physically support them. Demonstrate the willingness to connect and be vulnerable. Create a connection. The results were astounding! If they trusted their partner they opened up in camel. If they didn’t feel connected or safe enough to be vulnerable, they wobbled and fell. It’s 98% how you ‘connect’ to the person and 2% how you physically support them in the pose. Being vulnerable creates the possibility of a connection. Without connection you experience living alone and lonely. Connection can create laughter, love, and a life worth living. I invite you, live vulnerable and people will want to connect with you.